How to Choose the Right Midwife for You

Because birth is personal—and your care should be, too

Choosing a midwife is about more than credentials. It’s about trust, communication, and alignment.

You’re inviting someone into one of the most sacred and vulnerable experiences of your life. You deserve to feel seen, supported, and safe.

Here are a few things to consider when choosing the right midwife for you:

1. Ask about their philosophy of care.

Are they focused on informed choice? Do they honor your voice and values? A midwife’s approach should match your priorities—not override them.

2. Look for clear, open communication.

You should feel comfortable asking questions, sharing concerns, and making decisions together.

3. Consider experience and training.

Is the midwife licensed in your state? Are they trained in emergency response? Do they have backup systems in place?

4. Trust your instincts.

How do you feel when you're with them? Supported? Respected? Or rushed and unsure? Your gut often knows.

5. Ask what’s included in care.

Prenatals, labs, home visits, postpartum support—it’s important to know what’s part of the package and what isn’t.

You’re not “shopping” for the best bargain—you’re creating a relationship. Take the time to choose someone who feels like a good fit for your family, your values, and your vision of birth.

Ready to Find Your Perfect Midwife Match?

Choosing the right midwife is one of the most important decisions you'll make for your birth experience. If you're considering midwifery care in Miami-Dade or Broward County and want to explore whether we might be a good fit, I'd love to connect.

I offer free 60-minute consultations where you can ask all the questions from this post—and any others that matter to you. We'll discuss my philosophy of care, my experience, what's included in my services, and most importantly, whether my approach feels aligned with your vision for birth.

No pressure, no sales pitch—just honest conversation to help you make the best decision for your family.

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FAQ Section:

Frequently Asked Questions About Choosing a Midwife

Q: How do I know if a midwife consultation is going well? A: You should feel heard, respected, and comfortable asking questions. A good consultation feels like a conversation, not an interview. Trust your instincts—if something feels off, pay attention to that feeling.

Q: What questions should I definitely ask during a midwife consultation? A: Essential questions include: What's your philosophy of care? How do you handle emergencies? What's included in your fee? What's your transfer rate? How do you support informed consent? What backup plans do you have?

Q: Is it okay to interview multiple midwives? A: Absolutely! This is an important decision, and most midwives expect and respect that families will speak with multiple providers. Don't feel pressured to decide immediately.

Q: What if I like a midwife personally but have concerns about their experience? A: Both connection and competence matter. Ask specific questions about their training, experience with situations similar to yours, and how they handle complications. A good midwife will be transparent about their skills and limitations.

Q: How important is it that my partner likes the midwife too? A: Very important. Your partner will be part of your birth team, so they should feel comfortable with your midwife as well. Most midwives encourage partners to attend consultations.

Q: What red flags should I watch for when choosing a midwife? A: Be cautious of midwives who dismiss your concerns, pressure you to decide quickly, seem unwilling to answer questions about credentials or experience, or make promises that sound too good to be true.

Q: Should I choose the most experienced midwife or one I connect with better? A: Both matter, but don't assume the most experienced is automatically the best fit. A newer midwife with good training and backup support might be perfect for you if you connect well and trust their competence.

Q: How far in advance should I hire a midwife? A: Many midwives prefer to start care by 20 weeks, but some accept clients later in pregnancy. The earlier you start, the more time you have to build a relationship and prepare together. Many midwives limit the number of clients they take per month so reaching out as soon as you feel ready, will enable you to have many options.

Q: What if I can't afford my first choice midwife? A: Don't assume cost without asking. Some midwives offer payment plans or sliding scale fees. It's worth having an honest conversation about your financial situation—many midwives want to help families access care.

Q: Can I switch midwives if it's not working out? A: Yes, though it's best to address concerns directly first. If you genuinely don't feel comfortable or supported, you have the right to change providers. Most midwives want you to have care that feels right for you and will assist you in finding a better/best fit.